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||Relationship Spring Cleaning
History doesnt belong in a relationship
that is present
My friend, Jack Rafferty, the famous
Man-Woman Coach, used to say "dont clean the clean" referring of course
to relationship. What he meant by that was once you have gotten angry, argued,
and "effectively dealt with" something that happened that hurt your feelings,
be done with it. Dont keep bringing it up like dirty laundry. Once
you have forgiven someone for something, its history. . The conflict,
resistance to new concepts, stored resentment and revenge for old hurts,
that happens in most relationships relates back to those three words "effectively
dealt with", which unfortunately in most cases, isnt what happens.
For most couples, the barometer for intimate
relationships is sex. If your sex life is hot and exciting and fun, chances
are you have a pretty clean relationship. When there is trouble in the bedroom,
usually its an indication that there are a lot of cobwebs and dirt
stuck in the corners of your intimate relationship and that you or your partner
have shut down some avenues of communication.
What do I mean?
Lets say your partner doesnt
show up for a date with you. You manage to get through the evening and get
home to find him/her home, relaxing, having completely forgotten that he/she
was to have met you somewhere. You get into a heated argument about his/her
lack of consideration and a lot of Im sorrys are exchanged.
Was that effectively dealing with the
The resentment still exists on both sides.
What do I mean both sides? Well, this is my theory. The person who didnt
show up was already carrying resentment and unconsciously, carried out revenge
in a passive aggressive manner by missing the appointment. The person who
got stood up never got satisfaction in the resolution and now carries his/her
own resentment, which will surface again at another time. This couple does
not have a clean relationship.
Payback goes on in every relationship
at some time or another. It is comparable to the accumulation of junk in
your house. Just as spring cleaning gets rid of dust bunnies under the bed
and cobwebs behind the bookcases, periodic cleansing sessions in your
relationships will restore freshness and vitality to your love. Few couples
understand this or know what to do about it. Some religious organizations
have retreats for married couples where they do some of the work I am about
to suggest, however, the catastrophic divorce rate in our country indicates
that very little of this kind of work is attempted or completed by married
couples. Even highly enlightened, aware couples require some nudging to maintain
the level of squeaky clean communication that I am referring to.
Here is a suggestion for a process that
can be used to clean house.
Relationship Spring Cleaning.
Reserve a weekend where the two of you
can be alone and undisturbed for 48 hours.
You can do this alone or engage a coach
to guide you.
Each of you have a notebook which will
be yours to share or not.
Take time to write extensive endings
to the following statements:
I am with you because......
My feelings were hurt when ...
Im angry when ...
I resist new ideas from you when....
I resent you when...
I want to take revenge on you
I hate you when.....
I dont want to forgive you
I want to believe......
I love you because
You get the idea. You can add statements
that are specific for you as long as they are not accusations and they express
your feelings about the situation and your relationship. The goal is to get
to the tiniest resentments and hurts that you have stored up for however
long you two have been together.
Obviously if you have been married for
a long time and have never done anything like this, it might be difficult
to get every little thing the first time through and you may have to repeat
this more than once or get someone to guide you through the process.
Once you have completed your writing
, you are going to share the contents of your writing with your partner.
The rules for sharing are as follows:
Only one of you may speak at a time.
The person sharing cannot elaborate.
The person listening cannot comment except
to say thank you.
Once you have shared all of this information,
release it and completely let go of your feelings about all of it.
The outcome which is desired by completing
this process is cleansing and release.
The next part of the process involves
revitalizing and restoring your passion.
Take time to write extensive endings
to the following statements:
I forgive you completely for .....
I appreciate your...
I thank you for .....
I want you to....
You turn me on when.....
I get excited about....
I acknowledge your....
I am proud of you because....
I cherish you for....
I love you because....
I want to be with you because...
Repeat steps 5,6,7,and 8
The outcome which is desired by this
process is attraction and revitalization of your love.
Note: When you are done with this exercise,
if you dont feel like you just met and fell in love, you are not done
and you would benefit from more of the same.
Do you want to get him to pop the question?
Getting a guy to commit to relationship or marriage is not impossible!
Once you have completed your serious
spring cleaning, it is then important to maintain this level of communication.
You can accomplish this by daily, weekly or whenever necessary withhold sessions,
shorter but similar to the above. If you know that your partner loves and
respects you and considers your relationship a sacred trust, you can willingly
sustain such vulnerability. As you practice this level of trust with each
other, it becomes easier to notice when something occurs that violates your
bond. The best practice is to "effectively deal with" issues as they
Sound idealistic? I dont think
so. Once you get in the habit of having clean relationships with everyone,
you wont be able to tolerate hidden agendas, suppressed feelings or
anything generating resistance, resentment or revenge. You wont let
missed appointments or oversights or hurt feelings dirty up your association
Accountability is the essence of
communication. Be 100% responsible for your own communication and 100%
responsible for receiving others communication. That way, if everyone
takes more than their share of the accountability, our world will be free
of misunderstandings. Now perhaps that is somewhat idealistic, but imagine
how great it would be to live in a world where the inhabitants honored that
"I help people who want sacred intimacy
in a hot relationship, get what they want from each other so that they can
experience more fun, more sex and less bickering!"
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