cannot survive without commitment. Both commitment to each other and
to the relationship. Make a conscious commitment to your relationship
and to your partner. Work on eliminating blame, criticism, and invalidation
from your side. If you are guilty of it, accept your responsibility
and apologize to your partner. Try to understand your motivating reasons
behind your undesired behavior. Every day make the effort to do at least
one loving/caring act towards your partner!
partner needs to be appreciated as much as you do. Make an effort to express
more appreciation for all those little things your partner does for you.
Often, the little things go unnoticed but add up to so much more than
the big things. Taking the garbage out, folding the laundry, making dinner,
bringing them a cold drink, fixing the hair dryer, or even putting the toilet
Acceptance is key to successful relationships. No matter what, you
have to accept every thing about your partner. If there is something about
him/her that you simply cannot accept then the relationship probably is in
trouble. Remember, acceptance is NOT approval. For instance, your partner
may be an alcoholic. This is not your choice, it is theirs. It is also not
your place to cure them - it is theirs. In the same respect though, it is
your place to accept them for who they are and what they are - to accept
that they are an alcoholic. But, in no way, does acceptance mean that
you have to approve! Acceptance and approval are not the same thing.
take a look at your role in any relationship problems. Yes, you can
change other people - simply by changing
aware of how you communicate! Are you guilty of hearing in a defensive mode
and speaking in an offensive mode? Do you 'act' or 'react'?
partner is not a mind reader. Be specific when asking for something, or relaying
your needs. If necessary, write them down on paper if talking about them
makes you uncomfortable.
Sometimes the biggest mistakes we can make is to think that relationships
are something we have to 'work' at. Stop 'working' on your relationship!
Develop good communication skills, acceptance, appreciation, commitment,
and trust. The relationship will follow.
aware that power struggles and insecurities often masquerade themself as
love. This is false love. True love is supportive. For more insight on true
and false love read the online webBook, How to Get
Over a Breakup, and for help in saving your relationship, mending
bad relationships, and stopping your breakup or divorce read
How to STOP a Breakup.
relationships can be 'salvaged', transformed, and bettered. Breaking up and
moving on doesn't solve the problem as any 'issues' you may have will follow
you into any new relationships.
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